 | Anonymous : i have realy bad depression but lately i feel worse, it feel like everyone close to me hase just drifted away and theres no one replacing them my best friend i havnt seen in 5 months and all i keep seeing if people posting how they have had a good day with her but everytime i ask her to come out she says she busy ect, my ex girl friend hase just got with a girl who used to like me she was a good friend of mine but i feel like they dont even want to know me anymore , a friend i go to college with hase just started being friends with this girl who doesnt realy like me i dont feel and now hes not talking to me everytimw i try talk to him he egnors me ... i dont even have familey to talk to because we dont get on, my dad used to beat me and my mums a bad alchoholic :( so theres no where i feel call home no matter what i do i carnt feel happy anymore i just wanna curl up and die but then i feel horrible people have no choice when there life is taken away from them and i do :( iv been sexual asulted 4 times i just dont see why i should live i dont even see what iv done rong |
Oh my goodness, hun. :( You’ve reaaaally gone through a lot. I actually feel so bad for you, you don’t even know… Usually when I answer questions I look at them as if I were in that situation, but I don’t think that’s possible in this one. But hear me out; DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. Please. There is a way you can feel better. I’m not a professional so I don’t know if what I say might make it worse, and I REALLY don’t want to do that. I really think you should go see a therapist. Not because you’re crazy; you’re far from it. She’ll/he’ll make you feel so much better. It’s just really bad luck, if I can judge it that way. Your parents choices have nothing to do with them loving you. Its horrible you feel this way, but there’s nothing you can do to stop them from doing those things. Meet some new friends. Not everyone in the world is like this. I know it’s probably really hard to believe, but you came to me for advice, didn’t you? You have to trust me. Just keep your head up. I’ll just really help you if you go to a therapist, because they’re professional. I’m so sorry if I haven’t helped, but I just can’t get over it and how sad I feel for you. You’re worth your life, you were born to be somebody. Don’t let anyone take it away from you, including yourself. If you do take my advice and go to a therapist, tell me how it’s going in my ask and I’d love to talk to you about it. Even off anon, I’ll just go in your ask. I’d really like to help you more. I hope you start feeling more worth it, because you are. I love you. I know we don’t know each other, but I know that if I did, I would. Don’t think you’re not loved, because I love you. And there’s others out there that do, too. | |
| Anonymous : On as in not on the computer P.s it's a long distance relationship. my parents are strict.. awh you did help & thankss <33 |
Let me try to think of even a BIT more info…I really want to help! Since it’s long distance, do you plan on ever telling your parents? Because, if you think you’re going to be with him for the rest of your life, you should probably tell them (I don’t know how old you are so I’m just guessing you’re either a teenager or in your twenties) If you’re a teen, do you really think it’s going to work out? If you don’t see each other that much, and you’re still young, do you think he’s maybe not the most convenient person to date? With school and activities piled up for you to do, it’s hard to pay attention to him if he’s far away, you know what I mean? If you’re dedicated, I love it. Don’t let things get in the way. That’s just my perspective! | |
| Anonymous : when i say on, like he's never on the computer Plus we talk like once a week,. |
Try calling him when you’re out of the house so your parents don’t know you’re calling him. Tell him he should go on the computer more often and you should see each other, or you don’t know how well it’s going to work out with him. | |
| Anonymous : I love my boyfriend but he's never on, me&his 2year friendship anniversery is coming up, and i really want him on, but i cant call him, because my parents dont know about him. help? |
Well, first off, what do you mean by “on”? I’m assuming you mean Facebook or Skype…if that’s true, send him a message about it. Tell him to go on so you can chat, because you want to talk to him. Make a date to hang out and tell your parents you’re going out with friends. Have you considered even telling your parents? That might be a good idea! Then you wouldn’t have to hide it anymore. I know it’s hard to tell your parents these things because you don’t know how they’re going to react, but it’s worth a shot. Then you can live more “carefree” if you will, because you won’t have to worry about then finding out. Call him when your parents aren’t around, even, if it’s easier for you! Sorry I couldn’t answer this very well, but I hope this helped! | |
| Anonymous : this isnt an insecurity, its a boy problem haha So. I really like this guy. He's one of my closest guy friends. Liking him made me forget about this other guy I deeply fell for. Every time he hugs me, i blush and smile. I feel nervous when im around him. All of that. Problem: he's a flirt. He always plays around with me. He pushes me around, plays with my feet, everything. When I went over his house we went in the pool and he was carrying me around and splashing me. A lot of people say he likes me, but I don't think so and I have a reason to not think he does. He really liked (or likeS) this girl, angela. He asked her out and she rejected because it was the end of the school year and she was going to another school. I thought this was a perfect thing, but he still comments on her fb photos stuff like "beautiful" and "gorgeous" and ALWAYS talks about her. What should I do? |
That’s okay! This is basically an advice blog anyways haha. Well, you need to figure out if he likes you, too. Is he a flirt like that with only you? Or is he like that with a lot of girls? I’m sorry to say that he might not like you, per say, because you’re not the only one he treats like that. Ask one of your friends to ask him about it. That way, you can know. If a lot of people say that he likes you, it might be true. The catch is: you might ruin your friendship. And that’s not a fun thing, either. Would you risk your friendship to be with him? You’d need to think about that, too. I can totally relate to you, girly :/ I’m completely in love with my best guy friend…like, it’s really insane. But 99% of his friends are girls. He treats me the best, and gives me butterflies in my stomach. I don’t want to risk anything though because 1) I love him too much to be burned. 2) I don’t know if he treats all his friends like he treats me. 3) I feel like he’s too good to be real, and too good for me! I asked my friends to ask him if he likes me just so I know for sure. You should do that too! Hopefully I helped! | |
| Anonymous : Is there a reason why you havent answered my question ... ? |
I’ve answered every question in my ask! Scroll through my blog to find it. If you can’t find it, just send it again. I’m sorry! | |
| Anonymous : hey that video that u just relbogged well i used to have that on my blog a while ago as well. and the girl felt like that, but this guy told people that he goes to the same school as the girl and that she didnt kill herself fyi :) |
That’s good to know. I’m so glad she didn’t kill herself…she seems like a lovely and beautiful girl. I hope she recovers from her depression soon :) thanks for the message!! | |
| Anonymous : I was dating this guy for 3 years, and we broke up 3 months ago because I got really drunk and made out with another guy.. which I guess was half my fault.. but I was blacked out and I didn't actually know about it until the morning.. but the guy I made out with was like my best friend, and it ruined mine and his friendship, which I hate. But other than that, I thought it would be the right thing to do to tell the guy I was dating, so I told him and of course we broke up.. and now I'm so confused about my feelings, because him and I are kind of friends now and he was supposed to come over today but blew me off, and when I asked him why he just said "Sorry, I forgot". The guy that I made out with was having an on/off relationship with his now ex-girlfriend at the time.. so what I didn't know is that he still liked her. Eventually I had feelings for the guy I made out with, and I told him, but he said he still loved his ex-girlfriend, so that made everything else even MORE worse for our friendship. So now I lost my boyfriend of 3 years for some stupid, dumb drunk make out, and lost my best friend. If I could take back that night, I definitely would. This isn't really a question, just kinda venting. |
I’ll try to give advice for you! This seems like it’s really confusing for you…wow! I can see why he’s mad…I guess in the long run, it IS your fault, but it wasn’t, because you were drunk. Crazy stuff happens when you get drunk! You need to tell your boyfriend that. Tell him that you’re really sorry, and it’s just because you were drunk, and see if you can work it out between the two of you. Now, you’ve said that you now have feelings for your best friend…this is going to sound weird, but since your friendship is kind of ruined like you said, why don’t you just try really having a good conversation with him and try to win him over from his on and off girlfriend? If you want to be friends again, just say that you feel weird about making out with him (even though you might not) and say that it didn’t mean anything. I hope I’ve helped!! | |
